Do you remember in elementary school how the hallways outside of the cool teacher’s classrooms always had those bulletin boards that were decorated to the nines with catchy phrases, puns about learning, and art made from a color wheel of construction paper? My favorite ones were always the ones for Spring. Christmas ones usually had Santa- who I wasn’t allowed to believe in- or made me feel a kind of ache in the pit of my stomach- something like wanting what you know you cannot have. I knew that after the break, I would be one of the only kids not wearing new clothes, new shoes, with new puffy stickers on everything. Our Christmas would consist of whatever my grandparents gave us, which was always wonderful, and whatever the non-profits of Spokane would dole out. Usually, this meant one board game, two toys, a stuffed animal, and occasionally a gently used winter coat. Children with names like Angie, Veronica, and Stephanie- they loved the Christmas bulletin boards.
The Autumn bulletin boards stirred up a kind of ennui that I lacked a name for. Something about how they were so beautiful, with their red and brown and yellow leaves cascading down to the right, but always involving the word Fall, made me feel that we were about to descend into something I had no control over. I was a big fan of the earthtones, but already reeling from powerlessness by the time I ended third grade.
The Spring bulletin boards were the boards for me. Vibrantly filled with two kinds of pink, a yellow, a purple, light blues, and three shades of green. One teacher even made a paper slinky out of gray construction paper, positioned it unfurling, and said in all caps, Spring Has Sprung! I was amazed at her wittiness. So much so that I found ways to work the phrase into my conversations, as if I had come up with it. Little me, just plagiarizing away.
I didn’t even try to stop my amazement over all things Spring. There was something so hopeful about a new start. About the sun shining warmly and gently nudging the earth awake after a long winter’s nap. Green shoots reaching through the darkest earth to change the landscape, tender buds forming on trees that a month before seemed barren, desolate, risking early morning frost and untamed winds.
As an adult, I know that this season of awakening is where the real work happens. Where hardiness is built. This place of dirt caked hands and sowing something small into days we have not wandered into yet- placing seeds in the ground for a season that we can’t see but trust is coming, that’s where the magic happens. Summer is where you taste the sweetness of the strawberries, where raspberries redden on the vine, where sun-warmed huckleberries make mountains smell like cotton candy. But without the act of sowing there is no reaping. It is perhaps why I love gardening.
Gardening is mothering.
It is a labor of love, a place where sweat and soil mix. Where silence is sacred. Where you never have enough tools going in.
One in which the ultimate control is outside of your hands, but you till the soil anyway. You feed even the dirtiest bits the best nutrients available knowing that it will affect what you are raising. Your carrots may turn out uneven, your cauliflower may resemble your mother in law’s face, and your cucumbers might give you indigestion- but you grew them, and so you love them.
Your garden might not get the likes and comments of the neighbors, the ones with the magazine worthy Instagram posts- who’s tomatoes are ethereal, and their dahlias headed for Harvard. You know who I’m talking about- the women we forget are human, who we can’t envision crying in the shower or picking up after their husbands careless discarding of tennis shoes and their feelings.
Life has a funny way of leveling the field. Some greenhouses are nicer than others, but we are all toiling. All begging what we’ve sown to grow and keep growing. All watching our weather apps to see if there is one more threat to what we hold dear, imagining there is anything in our power that we can do to outsmart nature.
We become experts, philosophers. We settle the debate in our minds between nature vs. nurture. We blame ourselves when things are not growing like we hoped they would. It must be something we did wrong- overwatering, under watering, lack of shade, or sun hours, what were we even thinking?
We blame the soil for our friends when it is their own harvest that is rebelling. Their time for reaping is coming, it’s just a season, hold on, we say, you’ll see. Grace is easy to give away, and almost too expensive to keep.
We keep pruning.
Each day brings more sun and opportunity, a gift. And also one day closer to what we dread and anticipate. The time to trust that the roots will hold, to see what has become of our little seedlings. We pull, we whisper encouragements, as we nudge them from their resting place, hoping we have given them enough. We remember our joy at their first sprouting, how we cheered at their changes on the safety of the vine, how we dusted the dirt left from the storm off of them, how we stood half asleep and exhausted but still watered them. The early morning runs to Home Depot to get supportive netting- we did not let their fruit fall on our watch, when they tried to cast off their sweetness we grounded them. Soon it will be time.
New beginnings do not come without another season ending. The frailty of being human means that we occupy one space at a time, we are always closing one door before we explore the freedom of the next room. We never know what books are on the shelves, what chapters will trip us up, or what the view will be from the armchair.
We are still waiting. Not knowing what the bulletin boards will say around the next corner. We only know that it is Spring, it is time to sow good and useful things. To practice letting go of what once filled the palms of our hands. To ready ourselves for the work of doing our part and trusting that things will turn out. We don’t let ourselves worry about summer fires or hotter than hot days. We turn our head upward, feel the sun on our face, we breathe in and out- shakily at first, then steady- until something in our chest releases.